Braxton will be 12 in a few months & we are getting older. I want him to succeed. We are struggling with some behavior issues as of late. He gets upset when told ""NO" and when he has to wait for things.
He hits and that is not acceptable to us at all.
I have been looking into ABA and learning all I can. I know in part what it is and what to do, but my struggle comes from being able to put it all together. I have really wanted to do a schedule for him to structure things better as I realize at school, he does better as he uses his schedule. The teacher he has in middle school knows ABA and is willing to help me. Reading how to do it is one thing..seeing it put into action is another as I am a visual person.
I have also noticed throughout the years that when he gets difficult, he is going to advance in some way.
Usually, when he does not get his own way, he will slam thin gs down, push doors hard, kicks at things, etc.
I talked with his teacher on Friday and she was very encouraging and yesterday this is what happened:
Braxton was misbehaving to which dad took his dvd's away. Dad simply took them and went into our room, locking the door behind him. Of course, Braxton whined and proceeded doing things to show his unhappiness by pushing things over, etc. The more he was ignored, the more he did.
When he asked me for his movies, I simply told him he needed to take it up with dad and apologize in a nice way.
After a few more minutes, Braxton told dad “I'm sorry daddy” and then followed it with a scream to which he was told that was not nice and he certainly did not get his movies back at that time. Several minutes went by with Braxton whining about his movies and me each time me saying “ You need to tell daddy you are sorry in a nice way.”
Braxton finally accomplished this with no screaming and dad came out and gave him his movies. Now, Braxton had them in hand and looked at dad and threw his movies. Dad calmly picked them up and went back into our room. Braxton once again apologized respectfully and they were returned.
But then our Braxton got that defiant look on his face and threw them again. Dad once again picked them up and said “You will not get your movies back until morning.”
Braxton's eyes got wide as he realized what dad said and burst into big sobbing. Dad then put the movies into the video closet and locked the door. After a bit, Braxton calmed down and this morning , he was given back his movies :)
Today, I noticed he listened much better. Even though, I had once incident in which he threw his DVD's, he immediately calmed himself down and picked them back up calmly.
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