Yesterday, Braxton's teacher and the 4 PARA's came into our home for 2 hours. Mrs. H (teacher) has worked so hard for us. She came with a clip board that had strips on it and a schedule in pecs. She had it in order and it was perfect. Everything was explained and with the opportunity to also work with Braxton while they were here.
It was very helpful to see it in action.
We all went into Braxton's room and he came in and asked us all to sit and was very excited to have 'company'. When eh felt his space was invaded, he said "Out of room please." to which we immediately complied to his wishes and left while thanking him for having us in.
The battle came when they were gone and we had to work it. Many times, my mind raced "Now what do I do?" There were a couple of melt downs and I stayed firm as possible.
I know I made many mistakes giving too many chances even after I said "Sorry, try again tomorrow."
I felt so much like a failure and a complete idiot to boot. There were some things that clicked with him and I was proud of him. I just need to get a "Treasure Chest" together. One thing that is starting to click with him is 'Either tv on or pc on..not on at same time'. Poor child is 12 and has never had to do this at home.
Mrs H said she felt with both on, it over stimulates him and she gave some examples such as him putting his ear really close to the monitor and turning the volume up very loud. I must say my eyes were opened.
Tonight when he came home from school, things went pretty well and then we hit the road blocks over tv and computer time. He was highly agitated and at one point, I took his remote until he calmed down for 2 minutes. As soon as I gave it back, he threw it. Again I took it away. He got it back and threw it again which prompted a "sorry, tv goes away."
Needless to say, I finally relented after he was calm and this time he did not throw it, nor did he scream. By rights, it should have gone away till tomorrow.
During the time with the tv, schedule , etc, my darling 7 year old daughter was right in the middle of the chaos. She was busy telling him what to do, giving him 'time' out and adding to his frustration. I am setting up a chart for her so she won't feel left out. I will make sure to put a pic of me up there with the words MOM IS BOSS :) It is amazing that with her being adopted, how much she is so like I was. I certainly understand my mother now and sincerely apologized to her.
There is another positive and that is he really showed interest in his schedule and showed he where to put it. He was busy arranging things and did pretty good.
I have to say ti was I who was so exhausted last night. It is hard work . I can only get there one day and one step at a time. I look forward when I have learned enough to be able to help another parent.
Let's hope this weekend won't have me crazy by monday. :)
It was very helpful to see it in action.
We all went into Braxton's room and he came in and asked us all to sit and was very excited to have 'company'. When eh felt his space was invaded, he said "Out of room please." to which we immediately complied to his wishes and left while thanking him for having us in.
The battle came when they were gone and we had to work it. Many times, my mind raced "Now what do I do?" There were a couple of melt downs and I stayed firm as possible.
I know I made many mistakes giving too many chances even after I said "Sorry, try again tomorrow."
I felt so much like a failure and a complete idiot to boot. There were some things that clicked with him and I was proud of him. I just need to get a "Treasure Chest" together. One thing that is starting to click with him is 'Either tv on or pc on..not on at same time'. Poor child is 12 and has never had to do this at home.
Mrs H said she felt with both on, it over stimulates him and she gave some examples such as him putting his ear really close to the monitor and turning the volume up very loud. I must say my eyes were opened.
Tonight when he came home from school, things went pretty well and then we hit the road blocks over tv and computer time. He was highly agitated and at one point, I took his remote until he calmed down for 2 minutes. As soon as I gave it back, he threw it. Again I took it away. He got it back and threw it again which prompted a "sorry, tv goes away."
Needless to say, I finally relented after he was calm and this time he did not throw it, nor did he scream. By rights, it should have gone away till tomorrow.
During the time with the tv, schedule , etc, my darling 7 year old daughter was right in the middle of the chaos. She was busy telling him what to do, giving him 'time' out and adding to his frustration. I am setting up a chart for her so she won't feel left out. I will make sure to put a pic of me up there with the words MOM IS BOSS :) It is amazing that with her being adopted, how much she is so like I was. I certainly understand my mother now and sincerely apologized to her.
There is another positive and that is he really showed interest in his schedule and showed he where to put it. He was busy arranging things and did pretty good.
I have to say ti was I who was so exhausted last night. It is hard work . I can only get there one day and one step at a time. I look forward when I have learned enough to be able to help another parent.
Let's hope this weekend won't have me crazy by monday. :)
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