Sunday, March 4, 2012

Another Obstacle :(

Here it is 9:40AM and cold outside. Braxton has been out on his bike since about 7AM. I keep checking on him about every 15 to 20 minutes.
He has had a bit more freedom that we started during last summer, since we live on a dead end road. He has done pretty well on boundaries. We do not like him going down driveways that belong to the neighbors as in the past, we have had problems with him walking into homes when he has not been invited.
I have 1 neighbor that raises dogs and this has been an attraction for him as the dogs seem to come running to the gate when they see Braxton.  Of course, this excites him as he loves the action of all these jumping dogs.
I have had repeated conversations with my neighbor telling her that even though Braxton seems to not bother with her gate much, that he can possibly open it without a lock being on it. I also fully understand the position of someone feeling they should not have to lock their own gate either.
Well, I had gone out to check on him a while ago and I thought I saw one of the neighbors dogs out. I told my husband and sure enough, he had let 6 of them out. So, they are out there, chasing down dogs.
  I just hope this does not make an enemy with a good neighbor. I feel terrible about it.
In fact, it was just last night my neighbor and I had a conversation about this. I knew it was possible and said so. She said it was such a hassle to lock it. I will do what I can do, but will not keep Braxton in forever. She said that they talked Braxton about jumping up and down flapping his arms in front of their gate as this excites the dogs also.  I then explained to her that Braxton has Sensory Integration issues and does not feel his body and does this for sensory input. I told her this was the norm for in the home also and happens constantly.
As a result of this, we will keep the locks on both doors and Braxton will not be allowed to go outside at all today. And we will have to go back to the other way of locking both of our big gates and he will only be allowed to ride his bike in our driveway with constant reminders of the why.
So for now, I am sitting here feeling totally helpless and wondering what they expect me to do and how to do it.
We parents do what we can for our kids to teach them.
As a rule, I must say that Braxton is usually pretty good and tries to listen. He is not an aggressive child at all. Some people are intimidated by his size though.
We need to educate others as much as we can about Autism. Not to set up excuses for our children, but to let them know it is not always easy to come up with solutions. People need to know that Autism is a neurological disorder that affects just about everything.
Update: ALL of the dogs have been recovered and 2 neighbors are out there talking, no doubt about Braxton...Life goes on..

As it turns out, I just spoke to my neighbors and they are so nice. They really try to understand and are helpful with what we are trying to do. They are not mad at us or Braxton. I was very honest with her in telling her I am not going to 'police' Braxton and will not be out there every minute. I am only one person and will do what I can to teach him. She made a comment about feeling by locking their gate is like making them feel imprisoned and how fully I understand the feelings as we have dead bolts on our doors and locks on gates and on windows, etc.  I feel she may have been a bit surprised when I told her about all of our locks.
The main thing is that they are supportive and remain our friends even though at times, things may seem out of whack.
There is a movie called "A beautiful Mind", that they said was really good and I think I may look it up and view.

Paul and I spent a couple of hours dragging a big chain link fence to a place in  our back yard where Braxton and the dog were climbing over the existing fence. This fence was damaged from a wind storm we had a few weeks ago. I heard Braxton go out the back yard and went to check on him. Sure enough he was headed toward the downed fence, still unaware it was fixed. Darn, I wish I had had my camera with me to capture the dum founded look on his face:)

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