Since yesterday, our home has been in one chaotic mess. I am inclined to say that the two children are bored and school needs to start..yesterday:)
Yesterday, my daughter insisted on my continuing undivided attention she seeks. I had some work for work to finish and told her I would be with her in a few moments. Hubby had just got back from getting Braxton's bike fixed and Braxton was riding around.
Sarita came in saying "Mom, Braxton was riding too close to your car and scratched it." "Oh no', as I went to see. I took one look at 4 scratches and asked her why she did this and of course got the usual denials. Scratches on top of the trunk going up and down were not made from a bike. Miraculously, she found the 'assault' weapon..a small piece of wire. Per the usual final confession, she started out with "If you would have....the car would not get scratched."
Beings I am the mom, I told her she needed to take the responsibility for what she does. I was not going to punish her at that moment because I needed to think and be able to be rational with her and for several months, I have been trying to only say what I mean.
For several minutes, I remained curt to her and spoke very little. I went to face book and posted "I am so pissed and not at hubby."
Finally, I said to her "There are consequences for what you did and you are going to pick which one out of these two...." There are 2 events coming up in which Sarita has been looking forward to attending..so, she has her choice out of the 2 of them. She chose the latter event, no doubt thinking I will forget about it..but I will not forget.
I told her we needed to bring up the car incident to her therapist, in which she asked me not to as it will embarrass her...I sat down with her and put her on my lap and said "Honey, I understand how you feel. When we act out without thinking and do dumb things, then we run the risk of being embarrassed by others finding out...I hope you learn a lesson from this."
I reminded her of how very much I love her, but was hurt by her actions.
Today, some drama continued in the house as both kids were fighting and screaming. my aching head..Sarita screaming and crying..Braxton crying and mad at Sarita..both kids tugging on me and so I am sitting here zoning out while Sarita is pulling on me to tell me where she got hit and Braxton is picking up all his dvd's that she has thrown on the floor..yes, this too shall pass!..
I finally got the storms calmed by inviting the kids to help me make some cookies....Hopefully, the rest of the day will be calmer
The black berries on the surface of the bushes seem very small and not very good to me (on the left) , but I then started looking down deep under the bushes and came up with the gems on the right. This reminds me of people and the fact that some do not seem very good on the surface, if we peel away the layers and look deeper, we will usually find something good and positive.
Yesterday, my daughter insisted on my continuing undivided attention she seeks. I had some work for work to finish and told her I would be with her in a few moments. Hubby had just got back from getting Braxton's bike fixed and Braxton was riding around.
Sarita came in saying "Mom, Braxton was riding too close to your car and scratched it." "Oh no', as I went to see. I took one look at 4 scratches and asked her why she did this and of course got the usual denials. Scratches on top of the trunk going up and down were not made from a bike. Miraculously, she found the 'assault' weapon..a small piece of wire. Per the usual final confession, she started out with "If you would have....the car would not get scratched."
Beings I am the mom, I told her she needed to take the responsibility for what she does. I was not going to punish her at that moment because I needed to think and be able to be rational with her and for several months, I have been trying to only say what I mean.
For several minutes, I remained curt to her and spoke very little. I went to face book and posted "I am so pissed and not at hubby."
Finally, I said to her "There are consequences for what you did and you are going to pick which one out of these two...." There are 2 events coming up in which Sarita has been looking forward to attending..so, she has her choice out of the 2 of them. She chose the latter event, no doubt thinking I will forget about it..but I will not forget.
I told her we needed to bring up the car incident to her therapist, in which she asked me not to as it will embarrass her...I sat down with her and put her on my lap and said "Honey, I understand how you feel. When we act out without thinking and do dumb things, then we run the risk of being embarrassed by others finding out...I hope you learn a lesson from this."
I reminded her of how very much I love her, but was hurt by her actions.
Today, some drama continued in the house as both kids were fighting and screaming. my aching head..Sarita screaming and crying..Braxton crying and mad at Sarita..both kids tugging on me and so I am sitting here zoning out while Sarita is pulling on me to tell me where she got hit and Braxton is picking up all his dvd's that she has thrown on the floor..yes, this too shall pass!..
I finally got the storms calmed by inviting the kids to help me make some cookies....Hopefully, the rest of the day will be calmer
The black berries on the surface of the bushes seem very small and not very good to me (on the left) , but I then started looking down deep under the bushes and came up with the gems on the right. This reminds me of people and the fact that some do not seem very good on the surface, if we peel away the layers and look deeper, we will usually find something good and positive.
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